1. Have a burial plot: Done. When we got a plot for Claire we also got them for Lincoln and I. We just picked out 3 in a row. Claire is buried on the end, and Lincoln and I will be directly next to her.
2. Pick out and design my headstone: I have not done this, although I have thought a lot about it since we picked out Claire's. I would like a joint one with Lincoln - I believe that we will have the back exactly like Claire's is. The front I would like very simple with our names, birth dates, death dates, and marriage date in the middle.
3. Decide on songs to be played at the funeral: I'm not sure on this part, but I have been recording all of my favorite song lyrics on this blog, so hopefully my kids can flip through their books and see what my favorites were.
4. Decide on scripture: I haven't done this, but I think it will be very easy for me. It's my goal to have it picked out and recorded on this post within the next week.
5. Have my estate taken care of: This has not been done. I HATE this! Although I am well aware that it needs to be done, it seems like every time we discuss it we get busy and don't get around to getting with a lawyer to draw it all up. It's also rather expensive. No excuses, I know. It's my goal to have this finalized this year. I believe this category includes where our children are to go if we were to die at the same time, what is to happen to our material possessions, and our monetary assets. (Ha ha, I know there's not much - but we've worked hard for what we've earned and I don't intend for the government to get it!) We will give at least 10% to the work of the Lord...I want my children to know that even in death we love them, but we loved the Lord more.
I hope that my family and friends know that I am already looking forward to the day that I get to go Home. I'm sure that the last few minutes on earth may be a little scary, but in my heart I have a sense of peace and a desire to get to the place that God has prepared for me. I can't wait to be with my family that has gone on before me and to spend my days singing at the top of my lungs worshiping God! I hope that my funeral will be more of a celebration that I am where I truly belong rather than a sad goodbye. We will all be re-united again someday! If I have lived through this life after having to say goodbye to my daughter, I know that those left after me can do the same. Be happy, worship the Lord YOUR God, smile and laugh a lot. Welcome both the joys and sorrows...they help to form you into who you are meant to be. Lean on God to get you through the hard times - He always will. Make a difference in those around you and keep your eyes on the prize.
ps - I'm aware that this is a rather morbid post. Some may read it and think I'm out of my mind. I simply think that death is a part of life and to ignore it is ignore reality. I know what it's like to lose loved ones and try to pull it all together after they are gone. Nothing prepares you for the loss...but we can make it easier on each other by having plans. Not just plans that you tell someone, because chances are, they won't be thinking clearly enough afterward to remember what you've told them. Write it down, put it in a safe place, and then go on with your life - happier and with less stress!
2 comments:
Not morbid. Very responsible of you! :o)
I don't think it is crazy at all to have your Funeral planned out. Jim and I need to do the same. In fact, coming home from his Grandpa's visitation I told him what I wanted at my funeral. Planning your funeral in advance is the nicest thing you can do for the love one you are leaving behind. You definitly save them a lot of heart ache.
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